Tough Love for Celiac Newbies: Don’t Cave to Niceness

If you are a celiac newbie reading this blog, listen up:

You’ve gotta have good boundaries.

That’s true for everyone, but it’s especially true for someone new to the celiac diet (or any other special diet). Take care of yourself. It’s time to stop pleasing mom, dad, grandparents, Aunt Jane, cousin Isabel, the waitress at the restaurant, your priest or rabbi, children’s friends’ parents or anyone else who kindly offers you food that you know you can’t eat. They don’t necessarily realize what’s best for you or even understand or care about your condition. That’s OK. You do.

When you are first diagnosed with celiac disease, you hope everyone will be nice. If they are, lucky you. If they are nice and understanding, even better. Be thankful and gracious, but watch out for vicious cycles of niceness.

Have confidence in what you know or intuit about the diet that makes sense for you, and stick to it calmly and graciously. Don’t fret or overly explain yourself. You know your body and what works, or if you don’t, say hello and get to know it.

If a food, cuisine or preparation makes you sick or just plain uncomfortable, it’s sayonara. Have a little farewell (or pity) party if you need to. Then pick yourself up and move on.

That’s my advice for today.

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Glutenfreelandia - It's where I live. Do you live there too? This blog is devoted to the joy, peace, health and struggle of living a gluten free life. For celiacs, gluten intolerants and those who love them. Glutenfreelandia - es donde vivo yo. Y tú? Este blog está dedicada a la alegría, la paz, la salud y la lucha de vivir una vida libre de gluten. Para los celíacos, intolerantes al gluten y los que los aman.
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6 Responses to Tough Love for Celiac Newbies: Don’t Cave to Niceness

  1. chefdf says:

    In full agreement with this. I’ve had to upset a few people and endure some indirect direct comments from my son’s teacher “oh, a little cheese won’t hurt you” she said to him. Frustrating but sometimes you just have to offend to protect. Not easy, but necessary. I’m enjoying your blog very much and I like the way you express your advice and opinions on living the gluten free lifestyle.

    • You are so right. Teachers can make or break an allergy kid’s year with their level of understanding and accommodation. I am glad you are enjoying the blog and will definitely check yours out as well.

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  3. Right on! This post hits home for me. I’ve always been a people pleaser and my daughter’s celiac diagnosis has really challenged that in an interesting way. You have to self advocate or in my case, be my girl’s advocate. There are no other options.
    -Dana

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